Women like a guy who dresses well, we can take this as a fact. First of all, remove any preconceived notions you may have that you need to be head to toe in designer wear to be considered a “good dresser” because that just isn’t true. Its also true to say that what looks good on one guy may not look as good… or good at all, on the next guy. So why is this? Simply put, we come in all different shapes, sizes and colors. Not only that, but its kinda cringe worthy when you see old guys still wearing Abercombie and Fitch just about as much as it is when you see a chubby guy who’s been working out a few weeks and squeezes on a tight shirt to show off his “pythons” and manboobs, sorry “pecs” in.
Lets say you are a big guy, by big i mean fat. Your first priority is to get in shape. Being lean says quite a bit about your character; It gives women the impression you are a man of self – esteem and value your appearance which means you are a man of self worth. It also shows you are goal driven and determined as you persistently workout and that you are, dare i say it? Sexy!. Yes, just like us guys look at girls bodies and think about what they look like naked women do the same. So work on your stamina, big guy.
Ok, enough of the drill sergeant act. Being big around the waist doesn’t mean you can’t pick up women, it just makes it a little harder unless you have tight social-proofing (if you don’t know what social-proofing means refer to my confidence article – part 1). Wearing a black shirt will instantly make you look slimmer, add a sports jacket to that an you’ll look like someone of authority. It’s worth mentioning here that it’s not just the clothes you wear but HOW you wear them. I will go in depth into this more in a future article on body language, but its worth noting that you should have your shoulder blades back and chest up. This isn’t to say you over exaggerate and walk around like Mr. Incredible but it keeps you from slouching and walking with level shoulders and your chin up says dominance, a man with prowess – and that to women is attractive. For fat guys shirts or sweaters with horizontal lines are a no no, they will make you look like a walking globe so avoid this at all costs.
So what if you are big but muscular? All to often big muscular guys will try to show off their physique by wearing clothes from Baby Gap. My friends, the only people you are attracting wearing clothes a size or two too small for you is gay guys and other guys who work out. The best way to dress if you are muscular is by wearing tapered, slim fitting clothes that show the shape of your physique but leave mystery to it, for instance; a slim fitting cashmere sweater with dress pants and nice shoes accessorized with a decent watch will have womens attention for sure. Guys with decent physiques benefit from the exuberating confidence of knowing they have a decent body which actually attract women more than the physique itself. So leave the tank tops and lycra shorts in the 80’s fellas.
On the opposite end of the spectrum we have skinny guys. Women’s Jackets who wear baggy clothes look like walking hangers, stop that. Skinny guys can potentially look good in anything other than clothes that make them look frail. So stick to slim fitting designs, and perhaps layer your outfits and experiment with what you like. Don’t be afraid to look a bit funky and add your own unique style and flare.
To co-ordinate the colors of your clothing here is a simple rule of thumb; Earth colors go together, don’t mix them up with loud colors such as red. Match 2 pairs of clothing together for instance; Tanned shoes match a tanned sweater with a black jacket that matches black jeans. Just look for things that co-ordinate and don’t wear more than 2 or 3 colors in one outfit if wearing earth colors, just keep it simple.
Don’t be afraid to let your personality shine through with the kind of clothes you wear. Self expression through how you dress is a great thing. Personally I’m a fan of artistic designed t-shirts and sweaters with a good fit in the day and smart dress and shoes in the evening. It’s all good as long as we look and feel good in what we wear.